Forgive - Don’t Ever Forget
We have all heard the adage, “Forgive and forget”. It’s a nice thought but as with many sayings it might be a tad simplistic. First of all, can you ever really forget? You can (and should) act as though you have forgotten but our minds are often a steel trap. To hold on to a grudge or to only partially forgive is simply not right. Many people say they won’t forget but what they really mean is that they have only partially forgiven; some half measure to keep the peace. So before I go on, let me be clear, I am an advocate of complete forgiveness. However, I don’t think you should ever forget.
Here is what I mean…
I have forgiven some very hurtful things. People have wronged me and I can truly say that I have completely forgiven them. I can even say that I love them. In fact, I might love them more and have a better relationship with them precisely because I have forgiven them. And I think I know why.
I have been forgiven. I have wronged people and I can truly say that they have completely forgiven me. I can even say that they love me.
When I remember how I have been forgiven it makes me fond of my forgiver. This is the same principle applied to salvation. We love God because He first loved us. We are appreciate of his love and forgiveness. I don’t ever want to forget that. And when I forgive someone, I remember how it feels to be forgiven and that understanding keeps the issue at the forefront of my mind. I can experience a greater depth of relationship because of what we have traversed, whichever side of the table I am on.
You should remember the love that led you to forgive someone. You should remember the love that led to your forgiveness. You should remember the pain and hurt that was reconciled. You should remember the lessons learned through that exchange.
Don’t sweep your issue under the rug in half-forgiveness then say you have forgotten it. Forgive completely, be full of love, and remember it. It’s okay.
